Marital Services

Engaged Couples

St. Michael has trained and certified couples to prepare those who would like to be married in the Church. The engaged couple takes an online Facilitating Open Couple Communication Understanding and Study (FOCCUS) pre-inventory marriage preparation survey. Upon completion, the Director of Marriage and Family Life receives notification that the survey has been completed, and the report is ready to be printed. An engaged couple sponsor is then assigned to the engaged couple. There are five sessions in which they will meet at the home of the sponsor couple at the convenience of both couples. These are very personal and have received positive compliments from the engaged couples who evaluate their sessions. 

 

Engaged and Planning a Wedding? 

Contact Diane Salazar in the Marriage and Family Life office six months in advance for marriage preparation.

 

Getting Married This Year? 

If you have had your appointment with the Director of Marriage and Family Life, be sure your paperwork is turned in as soon as possible. 

 

Convalidation  

Are you married by the Catholic Church? No? Did you know you can have a Convalidation?

 

  • Convalidation is the process by which Catholics who are married, but not through the Church, enter into a Valid Catholic Marriage. 
  • Having a Convalidation places you in good standing the Catholic Church. 
  • Being in good standing means that you may go to Confession and receive Holy Communion (barring other issues).  
  • For those who are fully initiated Catholics, you may also be eligible to be God-parents. 
  • At least one of the couple needs to be a baptized Catholic. You do not need to have received all sacraments to be married, except baptism.  
  • Non-Catholics are not required to become Catholic. 

  

If you have questions or would like to have a Convalidation, please contact Diane Salazar, Director of Marriage & Family Life, at (972) 279-6581, ext.19, [email protected] 

  

Useful websites:

www.foryourmarriage.org

www.smartmarriages.com

www.SusanVogt.net

Engaged Couples Sponsor Program

The Catholic Church considers Christian marriage a unique calling, believing that the married couple, in their love for one another, models Christ’s unconditional love. 


As a sponsor couple, you are the most important gift we can offer our engaged in their marriage preparation, for you bring the concepts of Christian marriage ALIVE through your lived experience. In your role as sponsor couple, you will act as facilitators, guiding your engaged couple through a preparation program that leads them to a deeper understanding of one another and their call to their vocation of Christian marriage. You will also act as “modelers” teaching more through the sharing of your own marriage relationship that any formal class or textbook could convey. 


AS a sponsor couple, they must be practicing the Catholic faith and their marriage must be recognized by the Catholic Church. It is recommended that the couple be married at least ten years or have a very mature relationship. The couple needs to be able to share their life experiences to help demonstrate to the engaged how to cope with their evolving relationship in real life terms. In the process or preparing the engaged couple and sharing with them, the sponsor couple experiences an enrichment of their own marriage. 


In this program, the engaged couple takes an online Facilitating Open Couple Communication Understanding and Study (FOCCUS) pre-inventory marriage preparation survey. Upon completion, the Director of Marriage and Family Life receives notification that the survey has been completed and the report is ready to be printed. An engaged couple sponsor is then assigned to the engaged couple. There are five sessions in which they will meet at the home of the sponsor couple at the convenience of both couples. These are very personal and have received many accolades from the engaged couples who evaluate their sessions. A Diocesan program is also available with group sessions in a classroom setting for extraordinary situations. 


As a sponsor couple, you will be required to attend a two-day training session presented by a certified engaged couple sponsor facilitator trainer. The Sponsor Couple Program provides a personal approach that addresses the unique needs and issues of the engaged couple in a one-on-one fashion. The sharing of experiences brings forth laughter and sometimes tears as both couples come to know one another. The engaged couple benefits from a caring interest in their future marriage, and the sponsor couple is enlivened by the enthusiasm and optimism of the engaged couple. This is a heartwarming ministry. When “your couple” walks down the aisle, you will find that proverbial lump in your throat. 


If you would like to be a part of helping engaged couples understand the commitment required for a successful marriage, while enriching your own relationship with your spouse, this ministry may be for you. 


Committed Christian Couples

Committed Christian Couples is St. Michael’s response to the USCCB response to the National Pastoral Initiative on Marriage (NPIM).  “The bishops recognize that marriage as an institution has suffered in recent years.  The persistent high rate of divorce, rapid rise of non-marital cohabitation, and falling marriage rate testify to its social decline.” (USCCB NPIM) 

  

Committed Christian Couples is for married and engaged couples and those discerning marriage.  This ministry will seek to strengthen marriage in our couples, our parish, and our community through living and understanding what a sacramental marriage is.    


Divorce

St. Michael offers a Divorce Ministry that uses The Catholic’s Divorce Survival Guide. This is a 12-week program which is based on sound Catholic teachings and spiritual principles. Each session helps people find peace, power and passion that they lost through divorce. Some of the session topics include Getting Through Your Anger, Learning to Forgive, Handling Money Wisely, Relearning to Date, and Seeing God in Romance. The cost of the program is $20 and includes one copy of A Personal Guide.  

  

Contact Fran Campbell.

Annulment

Contact the Family Life office to obtain information regarding annulments. 

CONTACTS

Diane Salazar

Director of Marriage & Family Life

 

(972) 279-6581, ext.19

 

[email protected]

Fran Campbell

Divorce Ministry Lead

(214) 808-4825 

[email protected]